Rob Williams
MSW, MBA, LGSW
Psychotherapy
Individual, Group, & Couples
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1555 Connecticut AV NW Suite 401
Washington
DC
20036
4920 Niagara Road
College Park MD 20740
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“Recent research has identified the early warning signs of intimate relationship deterioration.”
Researchers have been able to predict with a very high degree of accuracy (about 90%) which relationships are likely to end within a few years. This information is vital to help you know when your relationship is in serious need of more attention or help.
“What are the warning signs?”
- Criticism - instead of merely complaining, the person attacks and blames their partner's personality and/or character, such as "you are a selfish, uncaring person"
- Contempt - feedback with the intent to insult and/or psychologically abuse the partner, such as "you are more than stupid: a total idiot"
- Defensiveness - not being willing to listen to anything your partner has to say to you, out of fear of them hurting or attacking you
- Stonewalling - ignoring, avoiding and distancing from your partner
- Escalation of negativity during the couples' interaction - an increase in complaining and criticism
- Invalidation of each other - not making attempts to understand each other's points of view
- Negative interpretation of neutral or positive events - when one person does or says something which is clearly meant to be neutral or even positive, but their partner interprets their intentions as being hostile or negative
- Avoidance and withdrawal from your partner
These research findings have been verified in different couples and by separate researchers. If you notice that your relationship is experiencing two or more of these signs, your relationship needs some extra help and attention.
An ounce of prevention can save an incredible amount of emotional, financial and physical pain.
Call us at (202) 330-5390 so you can heal the resentments from the past and create a more loving, close, healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.
This information is not a tool for self-diagnosis
or a substitute for professional care. Each person’s
situation is unique. If you’re having a hard time
using this or other tips, don’t hesitate to call me. We’ll find something
that works for you. I’m here to help.
Best Regards ,
Rob Williams, MSW, MBA, LGSW
Source Citations:
Gottman, J. M. (1993). A theory of marital dissolution and stability. Journal of Family Psychology, 7, 57-75;
Gottman, J. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown Books.
Markman, H.J., Floyd, F.J., Stanley, S.M., & Storaasli, R.D. (1988) Prevention of marital distress: A longitudinal investigation. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 56, 210-217;
Markman, H., Stanley, S. and Blumberg, S. Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love, 1994.
Getting Help and Support from the Author: If you know of someone in need of help regarding a mental health issue, please give me a call. I’m here to help. 202.330.5390 or rob@aida-therapy.com
Rob Williams, MSW, MBA, LGSW
1555 Connecticut AV NW, Suite 401, Washington,
DC
20036
4920 Niagara Road, College Park, MD 20740
202.330.5390
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