Rob Williams - Aida Therapy Newsletter

Answer: The most loving thing you can do for your relationship is check on the intimacy. Because the sooner you pay attention to your relationship, the better the chance of making it last.

The wait time between a person developing a medical symptom and calling a physician is seven days. The wait time between a couple developing a marital problem and calling a psychologist is seven years! The longer you wait to seek help for a problem, the worse it is likely to become.

That's a concern because physical intimacy can be a powerful indicator of the health of the body or the relationship, says Dr. Gerald Melchiode, author of "Beyond Viagra: A Commonsense Guide to Building a Healthy Sexual Relationship for Both Men and Women" (Henry Holt, 1999), and a professor of psychiatry at UT Southwestern Medical Center.

"The success of the sexual relationship, like the success of the overall relationship, is all based on making sure the other person's needs are as important as or more important than your own," Melchiode says.

"It's not a matter of what you think the other person needs, but to listen to what the other person says. Don't try to cut your partner off and tell him or her what he or she is or isn't feeling. And the other person has to have enough trust to tell."

Another issue that is emerging is Internet addictions that partners keep secret. About 70 percent of men access porn sites once a month or more, while women are more likely to go to chat rooms.

Often, partners use addictions to avoid feelings and manage pain. These problems are treatable with a combination of therapy and 12-step groups. Treatment has a better chance for success the earlier it is sought.

How Couples Counseling Can Help

I invite you and your partner to call for a free consultation to discuss your situation and begin the journey to a healthier, happier relationship.

Improve communication
Learn new ways to resolve old disagreements and fights. Stop the cycle of blame and hurt.
Decide if your relationship is the right one for you. Understand the influence past relationships may have on your current relationship.
Learn how to accept and appreciate your differences. Grow closer together.
Learn the things you were never taught, about how to make your relationship something to treasure.

Begin to forgive and heal the hurts. Your desire to work together towards a better tomorrow is a great beginning. Are You Ready To Get Started? I'm just an email or phone call away.

email or call 202-330-5390 to start the journey

This information is not a tool for self-diagnosis or a substitute for professional care. Each person’s situation is unique. If you’re having a hard time using this or other tips, don’t hesitate to call me. We’ll find something that works for you. I’m here to help.

	In the Moment Mindful Awareness Tips You Can Use
Issue 25 May 2007	www.Aida-Therapy.com
Rob Williams MSW, MBA, LGSW Psychotherapy Individual, Group, & Couples 202.330.5390 1555 Connecticut AV NW Suite 401 Washington DC 20036 www.aida-therapy.com Forward this to someone who might benefit from this help! Send me your questions! rob@aida-therapy.com Visit on the Web: www.aida-therapy.com Click here for Mindful Awareness Class Sign Up	In this issue: Bored in the bedroom? “Rob, it's gotten rather boring in the bedroom with my partner lately, is this a sign that our relationship is in trouble?" Answer: The most loving thing you can do for your relationship is check on the intimacy. Because the sooner you pay attention to your relationship, the better the chance of making it last. The wait time between a person developing a medical symptom and calling a physician is seven days. The wait time between a couple developing a marital problem and calling a psychologist is seven years! The longer you wait to seek help for a problem, the worse it is likely to become. That's a concern because physical intimacy can be a powerful indicator of the health of the body or the relationship, says Dr. Gerald Melchiode, author of "Beyond Viagra: A Commonsense Guide to Building a Healthy Sexual Relationship for Both Men and Women" (Henry Holt, 1999), and a professor of psychiatry at UT Southwestern Medical Center. "The success of the sexual relationship, like the success of the overall relationship, is all based on making sure the other person's needs are as important as or more important than your own," Melchiode says. "It's not a matter of what you think the other person needs, but to listen to what the other person says. Don't try to cut your partner off and tell him or her what he or she is or isn't feeling. And the other person has to have enough trust to tell." Another issue that is emerging is Internet addictions that partners keep secret. About 70 percent of men access porn sites once a month or more, while women are more likely to go to chat rooms. Often, partners use addictions to avoid feelings and manage pain. These problems are treatable with a combination of therapy and 12-step groups. Treatment has a better chance for success the earlier it is sought. How Couples Counseling Can Help I invite you and your partner to call for a free consultation to discuss your situation and begin the journey to a healthier, happier relationship. Improve communication Learn new ways to resolve old disagreements and fights. Stop the cycle of blame and hurt. Decide if your relationship is the right one for you. Understand the influence past relationships may have on your current relationship. Learn how to accept and appreciate your differences. Grow closer together. Learn the things you were never taught, about how to make your relationship something to treasure. Begin to forgive and heal the hurts. Your desire to work together towards a better tomorrow is a great beginning. Are You Ready To Get Started? I'm just an email or phone call away. email or call 202-330-5390 to start the journey This information is not a tool for self-diagnosis or a substitute for professional care. Each person’s situation is unique. If you’re having a hard time using this or other tips, don’t hesitate to call me. We’ll find something that works for you. I’m here to help. Best Regards , Rob Williams, MSW, MBA, LGSW Source Citations: no longer available
	Getting Help and Support from the Author: If you know of someone in need of help regarding a mental health issue, please give me a call. I’m here to help. 202.330.5390 or rob@aida-therapy.com Rob Williams, MSW, MBA, LGSW 1555 Connecticut AV NW, Suite 401, Washington, DC 20036 *202.330.5390* Maps to my office: Here Copyright 2007 Rob Williams. All rights reserved. You are receiving this publication because either you, or someone close to you, stated that you wanted to receive it. I cover new topics every week. Feel free to make a suggestion if you’d like to learn about something in particular. To receive your own copy and receive news and resources, articles, trainings and other tools, please click here to subscribe to this newsletter. You are subscribed as To opt out of this newsletter, just Reply “unsubscribe” in the subject line or click here to unsubscribe. [Home] [About] [Newsletters] [Therapy] [Directions] [Groups] [FAQ]